“This is extremely important. Will you please tell Santa that instead of presents this year, I just want my family back. No toys. Nothing but Peter, Kate, Buzz, Megan, Linnie, and Jeff. And my aunt and my cousins. And if he has time, my Uncle Frank. Okay?” — Kevin McCallister (Macaulay Culkin)

Do you feel like you regress backward when you’re around your family?

You’re flying high, living your life and then you get sucked right back into the drama or they treat you like you’re still 14? It’s called family roles; we all have a peg that we can just be stuck right back into.

It’s normal and I want to give you a different perspective to take with you this holiday.

Your family made you, so most likely you are their dreams manifested, or a version of it. When you go back to connect with family, really just know that you don’t have to prove anything to them or fix them. Allow your buttons to get pushed and know it’s all for you to keep growing. Use your time with family as a measuring stick; to see how far you have come or areas that still need a little work.

This Holiday:

1. Challenge yourself to look at everyone as a whole person. See the good, bad and the ugly as ALL BEAUTIFUL. We have all been in chapters of our lives where the ones who love us most were worried or scared. Love heals, fear and worry do not.

2. Whatever comes up that you are quick to judge (and you know it will)…know it’s really for you. The person on the other end of the judgment is exactly where they need to be, so they can discover what they need to on their journey.

3. Just BE and set an intention for your gathering that everyone can feel comfortable to just BE his or her authentic self.

So yes, it looks like I just turned your holiday into a self-help retreat. This flipped perspective will hopefully be a little gift you can give yourself!

Happy Growing, Love…

V